I’m In My 20s, Put on Weight, and I’m OK About It

I’m going to keep this post short and sweet, well I will try anyway. I just want to share my newfound outlook on weight gain in your early/mid 20s, because it’s actually quite common.

This last year has been hard for everyone in some way shape or form, and every struggle, no matter how small, is valid.

My ‘panoramic’ experience has been filled with ups and downs, of which we don’t need to get into, but a byproduct of all the happenings of the last year and a bit has been weight gain.

Now, as well as broadening my waist size, I have broadened my mindset. And when it comes to weight gain at this age, the one thing that has helped me hold my head high is the following:

I’ve simply grown into my woman’s body.

I would/have found myself constantly looking at pictures from my first years at university, wishing I still looked like I did back then. What I failed to remember however, is that at those points in time i was still ONLY 18. When you finally turn 18 you think yes, this is it, i’m officially an adult. But in reality you can do all of the things adults do but are you really an adult? No not really, especially in terms of body development and especially as a female.

In your 20s more often than not you’ll go through a ‘Second Puberty’ and its TOTALLY NORMAL!! I honestly didn’t know this, but it makes a whole lot of sense. A lot of women begin to really grow into their curves, your metabolism can slow down a little, life changes and your responsibilities increase. You’re not the 18 year old with very few responsibilities anymore and it’s just a part of life, but it’s so easy to forget that life was so different back when you were 18 and the only constant in these different lives that you see, is yourself. Which makes it so easy to focus on how you looked back then compared to now.

Looking at my life and bringing myself back to the fact that i’m growing up, i’ve become a woman and i’m not a girl anymore brings me comfort, confidence and happiness. And as long as i’m comfortable in my own body, happy in the life i’m living and confident in the choices I make, I don’t see ANY issue whatsoever about putting on a little weight.

It’s Not As Easy As You Hoped It Would Be.

When you’re going through the education system you have this cliché idea of what your road map is going to look like from here on out. It’s all bright and hopeful, you finish High School, go to College go through the stresses of getting into University and then once you graduate thats it – career time. It’s when you think your life starts. You get a job, you start to work hard to save for a mortgage so you’re able to have dinner parties with friends, begin to accelerate your career and work up the ‘ladder’ and be a REAL grown up.

The reality of all of this, is that when most people come out of university you’re in your early twenties. This was the case for me anyway (and i’m not saying how it went for me is how it goes for everyone) but I know I’m not the only one who’s felt the ways I’ve felt over the past 2 years and I feel like more people should be open about it.

So, my experience. Aside from the odd stress melt down, University was the best 3 years of my life. I made friends, I had fun (admittedly, sometimes too much), I learnt a lot and I met my man. It was a blast.

Then that all finished and I was so excited, I had an amazing job lined up, I got to explore where my career was going to take me and I was ‘growing up’. My life was on track to be just how I imagined it was going to be and I would be following that path on my road map.

It all started wonderfully, I was so absorbed in my job (which I absolutely loved) but about a year in something just didn’t feel right. When I took time to take a step back and really look at the bigger picture it wasn’t all I thought it was going to be.

If I had the chance to go back and talk to my younger self, my advise would be ‘Don’t Rush’. There is no real rush in life, your life is really all you have and you need to make the most of your time on this planet. It’s SO cliché but it’s SO true. It’s always a constant competition, whether thats with other people or with yourself. We strive to get the best grades, and the best jobs so everyone will be proud and impressed with what you’ve achieved. But a lot of the time along the way in doing that you lose yourself, you lose the aim to truly find what YOU want in life and you find that you’re doing what you think you’re expected to do.

At this point in time, I can say the full time job I had is something I want a career in and I can imagine that being the rest of my life – but, I haven’t had the opportunity to go out and actually test that, see what else is out there and find out if that’s what I really want to do.

If I stayed on the road I was on, I can see the great career I would have had, but I know that in the back of my mind I would be wondering. Wondering what else was out there, wondering if this wasn’t actually what i’m supposed to be doing. There’s a whole world out there and people will tell you that you can end up travelling with work, or travel when your older. But it wouldn’t be the same as it will be if I do it now, to be truly free.

In the grand scheme of things, I’m a baby, I have so much time ahead of me and there is no need to feel like I need to settle down and ‘grow up’ right now.

I’ve taken a detour and what lies ahead of me right now, looks so different to what I thought it would and honestly that scares the sh*t out of me. But I am so excited to go and do as much as I can and try as much as I can and meet as many new people as I can and do all of these things. So if and when I do get back on that road, I won’t feel lost, I’ll know that I’ve been out and tried and tested the world before I decide it’s time to settle down, not because It’s what other people are doing or anyone expects me to do it, but because I know it’s time.